21st October 2008

 

It’s common for young stars to give up when they are faced with challenges such as failing in school. As a result, some opt for suicide, drug abuse and many become restless and violent. What can parent/guardians do to assure young stars about life after disappointment/failure.

 

Female Caller: It’s easy when the child is not performing well at school, you kindly tell the child that life goes on even after failure and that a second attempt is no crime.  It’s also important to love your child in all circumstances. For example, you must still host their birthday parties despite the circumstances.

 

Male Caller: In this world there is not even one person who doesn’t make mistakes. No matter how wrong the child could be, don’t disqualify them on their potential to do good. Just like an adult can smash a brand new car, and still get no punishment.  Raise the child with love and demonstrate that you care, show the way and promote education.

 

Male Caller: It’s painful when a child fails, but as parents we need to be patient with them. When the child is wrong, come together, discuss the matter and encourage them to keep trying. Avoid influencing your child’s by your unkind deeds because unwanted deeds would haunt you for life.

 

Female Caller: Children should be given all the love they need from parents.

 

Female Caller: Parents should give a chance to each and every child because mind capabilities differ. It’s common for children to have extreme feelings when they have failed, and parents should understand that.

 

Female Caller: When we send children to school, they also don’t like failing. So we must support them even when their efforts fail.

 

Female caller: Parents should try to understand the capability of their children. Provisional schools for slow learners are available and parents should be quick to take slow learners to such schools. This calls for the parent to take a close look at each child.

 

Male Caller: Children are a gift from God. Sometimes even if you provide everything a child might need, they may still go for drugs. Therefore, parents should also be careful not to give to much as this may also discourage the child from acquiring their own qualifications because they don’t see the need.

 

Female Caller: Background counts for the child. For example, in a case where the parents live in separation, the child normally stays with one parent. It becomes difficult to for the parent staying with the child. Thus it is important for parents to stay together to give all the support to children. Children should also be encouraged and be given good examples at all times so they wish for life the desired lifestyle. Parents should also play a guiding role and never defend bad behavior by the child.

 

Male Caller: There is little we can do, however children need to be taken care of as much as living adults grew up under caring parents.

 

Female Caller: We should be patient with our children even when they fail.

 

Female Caller: It’s important to be patient with children. We shouldn’t be extremely restrictive to them.

 

Female Caller: Parents should take care of children and be patient with them. At the end of the day, the child will see the right way to go.

 

Male Caller: As parents, we should motivate children and show examples and/or targets where possible. As for me, I did this for my boy. I told him that when he makes for a top 17 in class, he’ll get a bicycle and he met the target. I further stretched the target for top 10 and it worked for both of us.

 

Male Caller: Sometimes it’s difficult to know when to give up the patience. We have lost our values as a nation now because in the past children used to respect all adults and all adults were responsible to correct all children. However, today it’s not allowed for adults to discipline any wrong doing child save for their own. Then it is tricky.

 

Male Caller: It is true that children should be taught the right things. It’s is still important to whip a child when doing wrong but encourage them when they do good.

 

Male Caller: Children are spoiled by the knowledge and introduction of children’s rights. It’s now difficult to discipline a child as they may lay charges against you even if you’re the parent.

 

Female Caller: We request that parents and teachers help each other to bring up the child. Teachers can play a very important role in this respect.

 

Male Caller: We must pray harder as Christians that we take good care of our children.

 

Female Caller (18 years): It’s difficult for some of us because we stay with our step mothers that don’t give us parental care. I need counseling as a result of my step mother who from her behavior forced me out of school.

 

Male Caller: Parents should be patient with children and help them do their studies. Parents should also sacrifice watching TV as well, just like the children.

 

Male Caller: Children should be taken care of from a tender age. This will groom the mind for the future.

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